How Assertive Are You?

Read each statement carefully and then indicate whether this is Often or Sometimes or Rarely or Never the case with you

 

1. In a difficult meeting with tempers running high I am able to speak up with confidence
Often
 Sometimes
 Rarely
 Never
2. If I am unsure about something I can easily ask for help
Often
 Sometimes
 Rarely
 Never
3. If someone is being unfair and aggressive I can handle the situation confidently
Often
 Sometimes
 Rarely
 Never
4. When someone is being sarcastic at my expense or at the expense of others, I can speak up without getting angry
Often
 Sometimes
 Rarely
 Never
5. If I am being put down or patronised I can raise the issue directly without being agressive
Often
 Sometimes
 Rarely
 Never
6. If I believe I am being taken for granted I am able to draw attention to it without sulking or getting upset
Often
 Sometimes
 Rarely
 Never
7. If someone asks my permission to do something I would prefer them not to, e.g. smoke, I can say no without feeling guilty
Often
 Sometimes
 Rarely
 Never
8. If someone asks my opinion about something I feel quite comfortable to give it even if I think my opinion will not be a popular one
Often
 Sometimes
 Rarely
 Never
9. I can deal easily and effectively with senior people
Often
 Sometimes
 Rarely
 Never
10. When given faulty or substandard goods in a shop or restaurant I can state my case well without attacking the other person
Often
 Sometimes
 Rarely
 Never
11. When an important opportunity is in the offing I can speak up on my own behalf
Often
 Sometimes
 Rarely
 Never
12. When I can see things going wrong I can draw attention to it easily without waiting until it is a potential disaster
Often
 Sometimes
 Rarely
 Never
13. When I have bad news to give I can do it calmly and without excessive worry
Often
 Sometimes
 Rarely
 Never
14. If I want something I can ask for it in a direct and straight-forward way
Often
 Sometimes
 Rarely
 Never
15. When someone isn't listening to what I'm saying, I can get my point across without getting aggressive or feeling sorry for myself
Often
 Sometimes
 Rarely
 Never
16. When someone misunderstands me, I can point it out without feeling guilty or making the other person feel small
Often
 Sometimes
 Rarely
 Never
17. When I disagree with the majority view I can state my case without apologising or getting high-handed
Often
 Sometimes
 Rarely
 Never
18. I take criticism well
Often
 Sometimes
 Rarely
 Never
19. I give compliments without being embarrassed or making it sound like flattery
Often
 Sometimes
 Rarely
 Never
20. When I get angry, I can express my point of view without becoming judgmental or feeling I've let myself down
Often
 Sometimes
 Rarely
 Never
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Your Quiz Score is: out of 80

Analysing your score

20-25 You have a confident and assertive approach to situations that you encounter. You are quite an optimistic person and you can usually see the possibilities rather than the difficulties. You are flexible with your approach to different situations and you learn quickly from your mistakes

 
25-35 You are able to be reasonably assertive in certain situations, however there are certain other areas in your life where you feel slightly less confident and this causes you some discomfort. You would benefit greatly and quickly from working to improve your assertiveness

 
35-50

You find it difficult to be consistently assertive in your behavior. Working on your assertiveness would bring you more success in your relationships at home and at work. It would help you to reduce your stress levels and you'll feel generally happier

 

50-80

You often find yourself feeling scared and anxious. You generally lack confidence in your own ability and you can be very pessimistic, seeing problems everywhere. As a result you probably achieve very little happiness at home or at work. It is likely that you may have started many things but have finished few, apathy often sets in and you 'cant be bothered' because everything seems to be too much hassle. Improving your assertiveness will bring about some instant changes for the better, over time, with your commitment you can become as assertive as anyone else